Should I Stay or Should I Go Coaching

Should I Stay Or Should I Go Coaching Program?

If you are STUCK in the INDECISION of whether it's possible to put your relationship back together or if it's time to leave...and you are SERIOUS about finding the ANSWERS...this program will move you forward. It's TIME TO TAKE ACTION.

Let Me Be Very Clear

Relationships are very complicated and patterns develop that become unconscious. Many of these are patterns that sabotage what feels loving to each of you in your couple dynamics. 

This program can be used to improve and create a deeper, connected, loving relationship

 

It can be an assessment of WHERE you are stuck, WHY and HOW to change the situation. You can only do this by taking action. The most effective way is to do your own internal work.

There is no Magic Wand you can use that will "instantly fix" the relationship without digging in and doing the work.  And quite possibly it might need to be YOU who does the heavy lifting, at least in the beginning. 

Clients receive their personality profiles as a basis for what each of you needs to feel loved, how you act, react, think, and feel and in a very short you have a deep understanding of yourself and your partner . It is like receiving an Operators Manual for each of you!

The key to finding true happiness is to understand yourself to the depth of your being of "Who am I" and what YOU need to find true happiness. Only then can you create a deep, connected, loving relationship with someone else. 

 

It takes courage and it takes commitment.  But it will be worth it, no matter what the outcome!

 

So let's start with some questions by asking yourself:

  • Are you struggling, confused, and frustrated?

  • Do you feel invaluable, invisible, disconnected?

  • Are you chronically unhappy and feel powerless to change your relationship?

  •  Maybe you love them but you are not "in love" them anymore. You have been unhappy for a long time.

 

Do any of these rings true for you?

 

What happened to the dreams you had together, sharing your life? Remember in the beginning when you had so much fun together?  You seemed to get along so well, had so much in common,  and now you fear your differences are going to break you apart.

Divorce does not solve all your problems.

You might feel trapped and believe that leaving your partner will give you freedom and independence. However, if you have children together, this partner will be in your life forever through shared custody, marriages, grandchildren, birthdays, etc.

 

But what are the options? Stay in a loveless marriage?

What if there was a way to possibly...rejuvenate your relationship or get clarity on whether it is time to stop pushing the boulder up the mountain and to leave.

 

Give Me 90 Days before you make any kind of decision. 

What You Get:

In this coaching program, I am going to work with you to do everything we can to reengage your partner to reconnect and reignite the relationship.  And once engaged, they are welcome to join the program, if you choose. 

 

You will get very specific information on your personalities, differences, similarities, couple dynamics, how to love and respond to each other, as well as relationship tools.

 

       I will take you through a Process so at the end of 90 Days you will have clarity in making one of three decisions:

      You are going to stay as you are excited about the re-connection with your partner and what the future brings together.        You are going to be learning personality relationship skills to love deeper to create more juice and happiness.

       You are not ready to leave and choose to stay, at least for now and will be working on yourself and what you need to             do Your Inner Work of learning your fundamental core emotional need to feel loved and creating happiness within                 yourself.

 

​        You feel the relationship is unsalvageable and feel clear about your decision to leave after having explored all the                   options and consequences. 

Consciously Choosing To Make A Decision...

doesn't matter which decision... is very powerful.

It is a step forward in taking Response-ability to create the life you desire.

It changes your vibration, attitude and moves you into ACTION which creates the CHANGE and SHIFTS EVERYTHING!

If Only I Had Known This Information

I stayed stuck in indecision of a 35 year marriage, hoping things would change. Hoping my husband would be willing to dig in and help me to figure out what was causing our disconnection. But he wasn't feeling as unhappy as I was...that I was dying inside day by day.

It often felt like there was a glass wall between us. I could see him but I wasn't able to engage with him...at least not in a way that I needed to feel loved. 

After my divorce and finding the Enneagram (any-a-gram) personalities, I found very specific answers to our personality couple dynamics. I learned I was a 2-Supporter personality that needs a close connection of sharing feelings and talking while his 9-Peace Seeker personality didn't want to deal with issues as it might cause conflict. Therefore he never spoke up with what he needed, believing it would avoid conflict. We just did not know how to love each other...the way we each needed.

When I found information that was so specific, I wanted to help others who are struggling to love themselves and get the love they desire.

If I had found it sooner, I know it would have made a difference. Knowing what feels loving to me and him differently would have given me the insights and tools to connect much easier. And I learned that his patterns weren't as personal to me...they were just his unconscious patterns of reacting...the same as mine were. I would have had answers for those feelings of not good enough, chronically unhappy, and feeling powerless to change the situation, which I am sure he was also feeling.

And having this information for each other would have helped us to understand and relate to each other so we could build the connection.

We both agree that making a decision sooner would have been better for both of us. 

Do You Need Your Partner To Participate?

 

No! At least not initially...and they are often resistant to it. It would be awesome if they are willing but depends on how far the relationship has disintegrated.  

However, in the program I give you both of your personality programs from the "Get Loved Online Relationship Program" so you very quickly have very specific information.

 

And also tips for engaging your partner: "I am learning this about myself that I never knew before. Have you seen this in me?"  Your partner can see you claiming responsibility, embracing, and changing your behavior.  We become very resistant when we feel our partner thinks it is all our fault. 

Or "I want to understand you better. Tell me if this is true about how you feel sometimes."

They will see changes in you becoming happier and more empowered very quickly. And possibly with less frustration and judgment for them as well. 

 

And because you are recognizing it is both your patterns, your partner will feel instead of "fixing them" you are owning your part.

 

Pressuring them "what are you feeling" which they generally have no idea or how to express...is very frustrating  to them. Having specific information about their own personality will help identify, understand, and engage with them.

 

You will see your partner in a new light and will bring more dimensions to your relationship...if you allow yourself to move from being right to being happy. 

 

And if you choose to leave...you will do so by understanding your patterns that might have sabotaged this relationship so you don't take them with you into the next relationship.  It is also important to look at every consequence and possibility so you can leave with no regrets and no guilt.

 

It is absolutely critical that you identify your part so that you can understand and forgive yourself, and hopefully over time understand and forgive your partner so you can clear the baggage to attract a happier, and healthier relationship.  
 

I had one client who came to me to work on herself. After a few sessions she said:

"You won't believe my husband. He is mirroring everything I am doing now and he is speaking up. He is more excited about life. It is like he is a new man and we have more excitement in our marriage. 

Whatever your decision....To Stay Or Go, ...I will be there to support you to:

  • Learn new skills of speaking up, being an independent and healthier person in your relationship

  • Figure out what's really going on between you two and how to change patterns

  • Do the Inner Work of Transforming to Become Your Best Self and creating happiness within yourself

  • Clearly knowing How To Get Loved The Way You Need...how to give and receive love.

 

STOP BURNING TIME!!!   MAKE YOUR LIFE SO MUCH EASIER AND HAPPIER