"Eileen writes a compelling story of her journey and how her
Enneagram type influences her all along the journey."
- David Daniels, M.D.
Clinical Professor Emeritus, Department of Psychiatry, Stanford Medical School
and Founder of Enneagram Studies in the Narrative Tradition School
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Author, "Why Can't I Figure Us Out?"
Are you in a relationship where you feel stuck and unloved? Are you frustrated because you have difficulty understanding the other person? I did too.
We we high school sweethearts. I met my husband at sixteen and married at eighteen and I thought I had found my Prince Charming. I couldn't understand why we were two great people with the same value, morals and goals and yet just could not connect. I searched for answers everywhere reading marriage manuals, stacks of self-help books and taking courses. I would ask myself "Why can't I figure this out?" When I could find no other anwser I gave up.
In the thirty-five years we were married, my husband was a complete mystery to me. I just couldn’t figure us out... or figure me out until I got personality insights using The Enneagram Personality System (any-a-gram).
I discovered, too late after divorce, a solution to an unhappy and unfulfilling marriage. I could see the dance we had been doing for thirty-five frustrating years. I now understand why my husband behaved the way he did and why I reacted the way I did. Suddenly everything became clear. We had personality perspective differences.
Personality insights have transformed my life and given me relationship answers, both personally and professionally, and they can for you too!
I am passionate about helping others with their personal struggles...before it is too late.
Figure Out Yourself... Figure Out Your Relationships... Figure Out Your Life!
Here is just a very small part of what I discovered about our two personalities in our couple combination. I am a Helper and my ex-husband is a Peacemaker. (This is an excerpt from my book):
Helpers see themselves as loving fixers who can make others' lives easier. They put aside their own issues to focus on their partner's needs. Helpers overdo their giving and other people can rarely manage to give back to the same degree.
Peacemakers sense the attention is conditional and something the Helper needs. They react to what they see as a move for control and ulterior motives by procrastinating, becoming distracted, and resist going along through passive-aggressive behavior. Peacemakers feel the expectations are too high or intense to reciprocate, and often did not want the giving in the first place.
The Helper's basic need is for connection, intimacy and for sharing of thoughts and feelings. Peacemakers fear that stating their own needs will cause conflict and choose to merge with their partner. Although outwardly accomodating, when Peacemakers reach a point of stubborness, they have incredible strength and determination. and will not budge. Unfortunately, this means that they both end up frustrated that their own needs are never met.
Helpers intensify their efforts and pressure Peacemakers to express their feelings, attempting to wring out the Peacemaker's thoughts, feelings, and emotions to gain connection. Peacemakers experience the intensity and see it as a demand. They respond by withdrawing giving the silent treatment needing time alone to explore their feelings. Silence and withdrawal is seen as a severe punishment to the Helper. The Peacemaker withdraws because of the intensity and the Helper frantically attempts to reconnect.
And this is the dance we did for thirty-five years. If only we had understaood, there might have been a different outcome.
This is why I am passionate about helping others to understand their relationships.
"This book is a must read for anyone who is wanting to heal and transform their relationships."
Karen Klassen, Author, Living in the Freedom Frequency
I had searched for the Why ...
Throughout this book I give examples of the many stages of my life from understanding the dynamics of my family of origin, work situations and finding the answers to my why in a confusing marriage.
Discovering that our personalities feel loved, valued and appreciated differently and the research on our couple combination, helped me to figure out what happened with us. How different it might have been if we had this information.
The Enneagram will show you how to become the best version of yourself and your value, both to yourself and the world. It will give you skills and tools to create a happier, and healthier life for yourself, how to get your own needs met..and transform all your relationships.
If you are searching for relationship answers, I know you will find them in Enneagram personalities just like I did.
It is in the sharing of my story that I hope will transform the lives of many.
My deepest wish is that you also find answers, harmony, love and respect in all of your relationships from reading my book and discovering the Enneagram for yourself.
"This opportunity for personal growth is boundless and rich
with opportunity for one to truly crack the code..."
Farhana Dhalla, Author, #1 International Bestselling Book, Thank You For Leaving Me.
In the book I share what I discovered:
The steps I took to break free of the confusion, frustration and resentments in relationships
How it's possible to create healthy and happy relationships through personalities, by discovering your own unique personality
There are powerful tools available to help you find answers and solutions to your challenging relationships, personally and professionally
Inspiration if you are feeling less than or powerless, lost and alone in your relationship
That each personality type has their own “personality loving language”
Meet the Author, Eileen Head
Eileen Head is a Personality & Relationship Consultant- Matching you to personality styles in; Life, Love and Career. She is a interenational best selling author, coach, speaker, and workshop facilitator. Through her coaching and workshops, she supports people to "figure themselves out " . Then she empowers them through powerful tools such as the Enneagram Personalities, to find their Relationship Answers. Whether single, part of a couple or for families, understanding your personality dynamics creates loving connections.
Although based in Calgary, AB., Canada, Eileen is available for workshops and online to share her powerful message. She is also available for keynote speaking and workshops internationally.
After successfully overcoming her own relationship struggles, she now gratefully enjoys a life rich with loving - family, grandchildren and friendship experiences.
"This book will serve so many, thank you."
Jo Diblee, Bestselling Author, Frock Off: Living Undisguised, International Speaker and De-Frocker!
Through Eileen's consulting and workshops she teaches you how to:
Find answers to your childhood, challenging situations, past and present relationships to heal, grow, transform and thrive
Break free of the confusion, frustration and resentment patterns in relationships and learn your personality loving language
Figure Out Yourself, Figure Out Your Relationships, Figure Out Your Life
Discover your own 'Relationship Answers', contact Eileen or visit her main site at www.eileenhead.com
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