9 ~ Peace Seeker
Peace Seekers came to believe that in order to be loved they needed to blend in and go along to get along. Peace Seekers seek harmony, are comfortable and steady. They can also be self-forgetting, conflict-avoidant, stubborn and passive-aggressive.
Think: Kevin Costner, Sandra Bullock, Renee Zellwegger, Jennifer Anniston, Morgan Freeman,President Obahma, The Dalai Lama
Nines avoid conflict to maintain peace and harmony. They are nice, likable, have a sweet quality. They will help but are not intrusive with helping. They see and can identify with all others' points of view. Keeps life the same and doesn’t like to get out of their comfort zone or change.
Energy is easy going, relaxed, smiling, laid back, undemanding
Peace Seekers merge with others’ agendas, plans, values and ideas eventually losing sight of their own preferences. They willingly sacrifice their own opinions to keep peace and harmony. Peace Seekers suppress or deny their own needs, wants, dreams, desires, ambitions, and genuine emotions for the sake of everyone else. They choose to be agreeable, peaceful so they can stay calm, maintain routine, and stay comfortable. They appear to be indecisive but are fiercely independent and don't like to be told what to do.
Socially Peace Seekers can get along with most people. They are accepting, laid back, humble, easy going, approachable making others feel comfortable and at ease. They are able to empathize and accept others. Being calm and steady they are able to diffuse conflict. They develop lasting relationships.
Professionally create a structured and harmonious work environment. They are patient, diplomatic, sees the big picture with attention to details. They are easygoing, consistent, inclusive and collaborative. Seeing all points of view makes them natural negotiators
Healthy Peacemakers focuses on harmony, avoids conflict, laid back, mellow, rarely angry and doesn’t show it when angry, isn’t pushy or threatening when getting things done, likable, nice, pleasing personality.
Unhealthy Peacemakers become distracted and unfocused using sleep, food, sex, drugs or television to distract themselves. Nines resort to passive aggressive behavior, slowing everything down, when they realize they are not getting their ownneeds met. Lets others lead, doesn’t pay attention to own agenda or needs, merges with others, challenged with making decisions and procrastination.
Most Important In Determining Type:
Driving Motivation: To avoid conflict to maintain peace and harmony
Misidentifications-others may identify with avoiding conflict but for Peace Seekers it is fundamental for their well being to have a calm and peaceful environment. More than other types they do almost anything to avoid conflict using passive-aggressiveness and procrastination rather than speaking up.
There is more to the dynamics that make up your personality:
· Influence of the Wings 1-Perfecter & 8-Asserter (personalities on either side of your home type)
· Personality patterns when Stressed: 6-Questioner
· Path of Development patterns to develop to become Your Best Self 3-Achiever
Understanding all of these will give you a deep understanding of yourself...but most importantly how to grow and Get Loved The Way You Need
To learn all the pieces of the puzzle of your personality, you might want to learn about your wing personalities and the personality that is your path of development
Not sure if you are a Peace Seeker or another Personality Type? Read the Misidentifications Below
FURTHER CLARIFYING BETWEEN YOUR TOP SCORES
ONE & NINE- Wings of Each Other
Both repress their needs and desires, and value steadiness, organization, and routine. (Nines do not like change and works to maintain harmony). Ones believe if others follow their rules it will create harmony.
Ones vigorously defend their rules, standards, and boundaries, expecting others to change while Nines tend to go along, merge with what others want suppressing their own needs to avoid conflict and maintain harmony. Ones are intense, more rigid and structured. Nines are more laid back, go with the flow, easy going.
TWO & NINE
Both are people pleasers, giving up what they want and need for others. Both respond to others, unaware of the claims others make on them and lose awareness of their own needs, wants, and priorities.
Twos move actively toward others focusing their attentions and energy on what others need and alter themselves to meet those needs. Nines are more reactive allowing themselves to be pulled by the claims others make on them. Nines maintain being comfortable, do not alter their image and are not intrusive. Twos can be intrusive, give/help too much.
THREE & NINES-Path of Development
Both want to be liked, seek approval, are personable, practical, and competent. Threes in the POD exert extra effort to stay on task, achiever their goals, more efficient. They become more image focused wanting to be and appear more successful.
Threes are very focused, goal oriented, high energy, fast-paced, efficient, and impatient to achieve their goals. Nines are much slower paced, go along to get along, will put their own goals aside, other's goals can become their goals and get side tracked from what they want to accomplish.
FOUR & NINE
Both seek approval from their relationships, are caring, empathetic. Both can get absorbed in their circumstances (Nine) or feelings (Four), feel deficient, become self-deprecating, and lose their drive for action.
Fours focus on themselves, feel special or unique and use the intensity of emotion in order to feel vital and alive. Nines orient towards others, resists change, engages by going along to get along, likes things to stay comfortable while avoiding conflict.
FIVE & NINE
Both can be retracted, introverted, thoughtful, detach, withdraw and feel invisible. Both resist being influenced by circumstances and people.
Fives detach from others, assert their strong boundaries to protect their time and energy. Nines are the least able to detach from others, habitually blend with others and go along with others to keep things harmonious and comfortable.
SIX & NINE - Stress
Are agreeable, accommodating, friendly, anxious to please, self-effacing, sensitive, and eager to avoid conflict. Stressed Nines become more fearful, questioning, wary, and mobilized for action.
Sixes keep more personal distance, staying focusing on potential hazards and what could go wrong. Nines, the most other-oriented type, lose themselves in the requests and claims others make on them and their own needs.
SEVEN & NINE
Both wants life to positive, pleasant, and upbeat. They are adaptable and want to be liked and to get along with others. They both avoid conflict.
Sevens are more frenetic and fast paced, oriented toward themselves, knowing and expressing their wants, agendas, and opinions. Nines are more even-tempered and slower paced. They are oriented towards others, forgetting or deferring their own wants, agendas, and opinions.
*Research reference to Dr David Daniels "The Essential Enneagram" and Enneagram Worldwide Professionals