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1 ~ Perfecter
Perfecters came to believe that in order to be loved they must be good and right to be worthy. Perfecters are conscientious, responsible, improvement-oriented and self-controlled. They can also be critical, resentful and self-judging.
Think: Martha Stewart, Judge Judy, Ralph Nader, Judge Judy, Meryl Streep, Kate Middleton, Michelle Obama, Nelson Mandala.
Ones have the need to get everything Right and the need to be Right which creates a lot of pressure. Because if you create the rules to be right and everyone follows the rules you can get the perfect life. They are constantly improving and want others to as well. Have more rules than any other type.
Energy is formal, erect posture, precise language, tenacious about own opinions.
Perfecters create a code of ethics and set the moral standard for everyone. There probably was a critical important person in childhood and now have an internal critic that critiques all they do as well as continually telling others what you “should and should not” do. They do this to save others from making mistakes.
Perfecters naturally wish to educate others to help them improve themselves. They are purposeful, orderly, self-controlled and are on a mission to continually improve themselves and the world. They will willingly sacrifice to overcome moral adversity and for the overall good of their community. Ones are predictable, reliable, and solid citizens, and steered by strong values.
Ones focus on details, are organized and structured, see one right way of doing things, finds compromise difficult, quality more important than quantity, compares what is real to what would be perfect, gets irritated when others don’t meet their high standards, evaluates details closely.
Socially Perfecters interact with others to make everything better. They are passionate about and champion worthwhile causes. . Ones are very good at considering various opinions and making a fair evaluation. Generally they are loving and dedicated partners. Positive feedback is very important to them as they are so hard on themselves and long for serenity and peace both outwardly and inwardly.
Professionally Perfecters have an internalized set of high standards, a long list of expectations about how they and others should behave, as well as how activities should be structured and executed. Ones focus on meeting high standards and getting everything right. They are great in jobs where attention to detail is valued.
Healthy Perfecters are continually improving to their full potential, strive for perfection, have strong morals and a sense of responsibility, and always doing their best. They have high standards of fidelity, honesty, and charity.
Perfecters when unhealthy, become more irritated and prickly. They tend to moralize and become more rigid with
the rules regardless of consequence or circumstance. Ones develop either/or thinking and pay less attention to
other's emotions. They can be judgmental and critical of others, telling them what they think is right. The more
structured they become the less happy they are as well as others around them.
Most Important In Determining Type:
Driving Motivation:To get everything right and be right
Misidentifications-Other personalities may identify with being organized and attention to detail but Perfecters create a structured life with rules to create the perfect life. There will be lots of rules for everything-behavior, how things should be done and there must be attention to details. They can be quite rigid. They get anxious and irritable when the rules are not followed.
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There is more to the dynamics that make up your personality:
· Influence of the Wings 2-Supporter & 9-Peace Seeker (personalities on either side of your home type)
· Personality patterns when Stressed: 4-Expresser
· Path of Development patterns to develop to become Your Best Self 7-Optimister
Understanding all of these will give you a deep understanding of yourself...but most importantly how to grow and Get Loved The Way You Need
To learn all the pieces of the puzzle of your personality, you might want to learn about your wing personalities and the personality that is your path of development
Not sure if you are a Perfecter or another Personality Type?
Read the Misidentifications Below
FURTHER CLARIFYING BETWEEN YOUR TOP SCORES
ONE & TWO - Are Wings of Each Other
High standards, likes to give, energy is on improving, believes they know what is best for others. Both represses and suppresses what they need and desire. Ones because they feel it is wrong or bad to do that (a rule), Twos because they have a belief that in order to be loved you must put others first.
Ones respond to others based on their own rules and standards of what is right while Twos respond to other's needs because giving feels so rewarding to them even adjusting to be whatever the other needs.
Ones often keep their boundaries and are somewhat separate and independent while Twos are the most relationship-oriented and can have patterns of rescuing and enabling in order to fulfill the "need to be needed"
ONE & THREE
Both like to achieve and can have workaholic tenancies. (Ones because of always self-improving, Threes to be successful) Both are focused, goal/competency/success oriented
Both are very driven - Ones maintain standards, adhere to the rules and have an inner critic that monitors everything they do. Rules are created by the inner critic of which they judge is right and good. Threes will bend the rules in order to succeed in order to gain admiration and recognition for their accomplishments, accolades, be number one. Threes will ship shape, adjust their image and presentation and do whatever it takes to succeed.
ONE & FOUR - Stress Type
Both express themselves authentically and intensely - Ones sometimes with irritability or anger, Fours with emotion and sometimes drama. Both have high integrity, are sensitive and can be very hard on themselves. Ones in stress have patterns of the Four becoming down on themselves, discouraged and feeling deficient.
Ones focus on being right, getting it right, correct behavior, standards and rules. Ones repress their desires until they feel it is right or they have been good enough to reward themselves which is difficult for them to do. Fours are more focused on responding to their own needs to attain self-fulfillment and experiencing the depth of their feelings, longings, and desires. Fours easily are expressive while Ones find it more difficult to be expressive.
ONE & FIVE
Similarities: Both can retract to figure things out, and are efficiency oriented; can have and maintain strong boundaries. Both can judge-Ones based on their own standards of right and wrong; Fives judgment is about intellectual matters of knowledge and competency.
Differences: Ones energy is very structured and intense, seek to improve themselves and others (Ones with their rules and Fives intellectually protecting themselves from intrusion of their time, energy and space) Fives detach from their feelings and emotions in order to stay logical. Fives can let things go much easier; Ones hold onto energy when rules are broken.
ONE & SIX
Both can be very intense, anxious, watchful focusing on figuring things out.
Sixes are doubters and worriers focusing on what might go wrong and worst case scenarios in order to be prepared to secure them safety and security. Ones focus on preventing mistakes, correct what is wrong to avoid judgment and criticism.
ONE & SEVEN-Path Of Development
Both work for a better world, can be intense, helpful and value being self-reliant. POD When adopting some of the traits of the Seven, Ones can let themselves go to be more playful, have more fun, releasing some of the restrictions of being overly responsible and being more self-indulgent.
Ones have difficulty seeking their own pleasure while Sevens feel no guilt in fulfilling their own pleasures. Ones are more serious, live within limits and boundaries while Sevens resist structure and boundaries creating their own rules about having fun.
ONE & EIGHT
Both have strong reactions, can react quickly with anger, and are concerned with rightness, justice, truth and fairness.
Eights are very direct in telling it "like it is", feel anger is an honest emotion, and take action quickly. Ones often feel it is wrong or bad to express their anger openly. It shows up as irritability allowing resentment and righteousness to build until they feel justified in expressing their anger.
ONE & NINE- Wings of Each Other
Both repress their needs and desires, and value steadiness, organization, and routine. (Nines do not like change and works to maintain harmony). Ones believe if others follow their rules it will create harmony.
Ones vigorously defend their rules, standards, and boundaries, expecting others to change while Nines tend to go along, merge with what others want suppressing their own needs to avoid conflict and maintain harmony. Ones are intense, more rigid and structured. Nines are more laid back, go with the flow, easy going.
*Research reference to Dr David Daniels "The Essential Enneagram" and Enneagram Worldwide Professionals https://www.enneagramworldwide.com/